The Butterfly Effect - American Indian Legends

According to an American Indian Legend:

If anyone desires a wish to come true they must first capture a butterfly and whisper that wish to it.
Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly can not reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all.In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Great Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted.

BUTTERFLIES ARE ORDERED!! YES!

Sooo Davey D and I figured it would be radical to do a butterfly release at the end of our ceremony to honor our lost loved ones and because of the Native American Legend! My mom always used to tell me when we would see a butterfly that it was her Father and Dave's fam. was the same way so we figured it would be a cool thing to do. I ordered a few dozen, mostly for the Bridal Party and Family. It would have gotten too expensive go give everyone a butterfly to release. It should make for some beautiful pics! I have a sneeking suspicion someone is going to swat one... will it be you???

Feelings: Creative and satisfied with myself.

Rehearsal Dinner Venue: FOUND

Mission over!!! Another one bites the dust, baby! We searched for the perfect place to have our pre-wedding gathering which, really, isn't a rehearsal at all seeing as we can't rehearse at SCC... for some reason or another. Anyway - Dave's parents are generously having the dinner in our honor at Max Fish in Glastonbury, CT! Don't worry though, for those of you who are not into sea food there are many other choices. It's going to be in the outside room and it's going to be SOOOOO awesome!

I would join the NRA if scan guns applied!!!

Registration for gifts... it's like a double edged sword... it's terrible fun to scan the cr@p out of things but it's so hard to pick stuff! Really I'd just like to take it all... I literally registered at like 5 places and then had to have a long talk with myself about how I had a bit of a "problem" anyway they were narrowed down to the following:

Crate and Barrel
Bed Bath and Beyond
Sur le Table
Bloomingdales
Pottery Barn

Each registry is on-line for easy access.

I downloaded a scan gun to my cell phone... sooo yeah...

Dresses for My Lovies!!

Bridesmaids' dresses were really hard. I had like a million ideas and then none of them really panned out the way I had wanted them to. Originally I wanted J.crew. It was literally J.Crew or Bust. I didn't look at any others but then they just weren't working right... sooo we went to Priscilla of Boston...they weren't very nice there nor were they very helpful so we took our biznass elsewhere. Our final stop was a Bridal shop in New Jersey where we found THESE!!!!!!!



Nah, just kidding... these...



Okay the thing about this pic is that it isn't very flattering. For one this girl looks like Danielle from Housewives of NJ and her breasts are too bulbus for me... and it looked twelve million times better on my ladies. That bow is also not hanging like a limp noodle there... it will be in the back.

As for my little Mag-pie. She'll be wearing the following:

J to the osh L to the ynn - Photog

Another simple part to our planning - we did not run around like chickens with our heads cut off to look for this gem of a photographer... Davey Fat Wrists' sister Jeannie and her Husband Sean used him at their wedding back on 08/08/08! We diiieeddd over his pictures and so we figured, done and done. No pussyfooting around this decision. I love his "artistic vision" his pictures are really unique which I felt really captured our relationship...to say the least (ha). Okay so we drove our little buns up to his home to get the low-down on prices and etc. I get nervous doing things like this, well... because I get anxiety around people I don't know. Luckily he was so easy to feel comfortable around and we saw some more of his work and the kicker!! HE HAD A GREAT DANE!! Guys, it was so cool looking and beautifulll!!!!! I wanted to steal him and put him in DFW's car!!! Once we were done looking at his stuff we pet the dog some more and bounced. I sat down in DFW's car and omg...an over WHELMING smell crept in. It smelled like.... POOP!!!!!!! Oh no. Guess who stepped in Great Dane Turd??? Yeah. Me. For some reason Great Dane Doo Doo smells worse then any other... DFW had to take my shoe out of the car and scrape it off so that I wouldn't puke and so his car didn't smell like death. It was awesome.

Here are some pics from Jean's Wedding!! Seriously. Your Jealous.




Here is a funny pic of a great dane

My girls like to party all the time, party all the time, party all the tiiiiiimmmee...

Bridal Party Line Up:

Spencer Schloss (Maid of Honor) - Sister of the Bride - Spencer does a very good impression of Eunice from "She's the Man". She's also really pretty and smart. I miss her when I don't see her for a long time. She lights up my lifeee.

Chelsea Burr (BM) - Lonnng time friend of Bride - Chels is the "throwback" of the line up. She's known me almost as long as my sister has. We have been friends since 5th grade. I have a piece of her blankey and she has a piece of my heart.

Jeannie DeVoe (BM) - Sister of the Groom - Jean and I share a love of Moose. She is one of the most hysterical people I know and I can't wait to be relateddd!!!

Jaclyn Dougan (BM) - Cousin - I like to think of her as my second little sister... because she bit my back once and I'm pretty sure we're now actually blood sisters.

Joanna Grab (BM) - Cousin - I like to sum up my relationship with Joanna with this line from Roundhouse, which was on SNICK back in the day.. "Ohhh yea, yip yip!" We thought it was hysterical and I'm still not sure why! She has long slender beauties. In regular people world that means nice legs.

Laura Materasso (BM) - College! - My little Laura is one of the best friends you could ask for - always willing to go the extra mile for anyone that she cares about. She has tiny hands and it sounds like fairys are getting wings when she curses. It's very elegant.

Marta Sykes (BM) - College! - Marta might be the most honest person in my life. Even if I don't like what she's saying - she will give it to me straight. I love that about her because I can tell her ALL my thoughts and she picks out the dumb ones. That is a true friend.

Alex Katinos (BM) - College! - Al and I grew quite close in college - we were roomates and were able to put up with each others antics... she is also one of my very best friends and I love her guts.

Maggie Dougan (Flower Girl) - Cousin - My little Maggie pants is the youngest in my family and perhaps the most talented. She is a great dancer!! She also has the best personality ever.

Russell Dougan (Ring Man) - Cousin - Russ may look older then he is, but please be warned that he's not and none of you girls are allowed to hit on him. He's quite the catch but ask him about his bumpies...(seriously though, he's awesome). But then again seriously do not hit on him.


On Davey's side - we havvve 10 groomsmen - Colin, Shaun, Sean, Dan S., Dan J, Paul, Razor, Kevin, John and Mike. I love them all to tiny pieces!!

Feelings: Picking this was easy easssyyy easy. Made me THRILLED!!!!

**side note, I am updating this post -- there was one more BM we'll call her "Jim" who is no longer able to participate. No hard feelings there but we wish "Jim" were enjoying this amazing experience with us.

Ivory Perfection - David do not read.

THE MOST FUN PART OF WEDDING PLANNING!!!!

My good friends Laura & Marta convinced me to hit up Kleinfelds in Manhattan to check out wedding dresses. I was opposed because I was like "psh, who the heck would spend that much on a dress you'll wear once?" But I went for fun and because they film Say Yes to the Dress there and since my family is from CT things that are "famous" excite them. A la Carlos Bakery in Hoboken and Pinkberry. Side note on that... we took my sister, Spencer, to Pinkberry because she had wanted to go so badly and my Mother proceeded to "steal" napkins for her to keep as a souv. yeah.

Okay so back to the topic... I was SURE that I was getting this beautiful J.Crew dress because it was classic and simple.



So I went to try it on... and it was pretty but really nothing special to be honest. I had my mind set that it's what I wanted though so I was all prepared to get it once Kleinfelds was a bust. A few weeks later - I went with quite the entourage (Mom, Marta, Laura, Davey's Mom, Davey's Aunt, My Aunt, Davey's Sister). Having everyone there was amazing. And then the anxiety set in. I had a mini panic attack and was either going to throw down or throw up and pass out. Luckily my Mommy was there and she made me feel better :) -- apparently it's okay to feel like you can't breathe because getting married is kind of a big deal.

We went into the main room and picked out a bunch of dresses. My main desire was to get something with pockets. I have no idea why - I guess I just like pockets? Sooo dresses were collected and I was ushered into the dressing room. Ladies... I suggest wearing regular undies... should anyone or everyone be in your fitting room they are going to see your rear. Dress number one was nice - a little to mature for me, but it had POCKETS!!! THEN Laura found this Christos dress that I had been admiring in a mag for.ev.er. It was kind of expensive but since Laur litterally stole it from another bride to be I gave it a shot. This was the holy grail of dresses for me. I felt like an unsurmountable load of money. I wanted to have it glued to my body so that I never had to take it off. Applause all around from entourage. Alas, they convinced me to try on some more dresses... this consisted of like 3 more. They were all very lovely... but Christos...ohhh my Christos Ivory light of my life... with your swiss dots and sweet heart neckline...

The woman helping me at K's had me try it on again... so I did!!!!! I looked at my Mom and we were like YESSSSS. Not out loud but with our eyes. Well actually I was like YES she was more like "I love it but is it practial" but I knew behind that Motherly relisticness(??) I couldn't live without it and that was that.



Not to toot my own horn here or anything but I think my lady lumps fill out the dress a little better then this model...

Anyway I was taken to the front room to admire myself and then they put a veil on me and a fake bouquet and I started crying then the others did... or at least some of them. It was a done deal. That was the second most happy time, the first being the proposal...

Feelings: Nausea and Shortness of breath upon arrival. PUMPED because I was shopping and then sheer glee and giddyness once I found my Christos Maribel dress. I may never ever ever take it off after the wedding. I may be known as the girl who goes to work in her wedding dress. Look for me Manhattan!